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Notes From The Underpants ( or what I learned being a manager )

January 24, 2016
  1. always work on transferrable skills
  2. revamp your resume every 3 months- have a clear list of skills to improve and your current progress
  3. not your boss, or his boss or anyone can guarantee a job or a promotion, unless they get it on paper or text or email, which they won’t
  4. don’t get lulled into complacency, don’t count on vague off-the-record promises- they’re worthless because things are always changing
  5. people are clique-y. if they like you for whatever reason, you can never do wrong
  6. people stick to their own kind, especially the older ones. they know what they know- are and will always be comfortable with what they are familiar with. and when push comes to shove, they will stick to their kind, no matter what they say in public
  7. people will manipulate. in the end it’s about influencing ( in whatever shape or form)- it doesn’t cost a thing. nothing for huge returns
  8. when the shit hits the fan your boss/peers will throw you under the bus
  9. others will belittle, ignore- but steal your ideas and take credit
  10. be cautious with sharing your ideas and solutions at work- better yet, tell it to a tree and keep improving your skills/resume meanwhile
  11. your boss will only remember what you did today, at best maybe yesterday. anything beyond yesterday is a blank
  12. your real job is to help your bosses keep their jobs
  13. you are expendable
  14. bosses crave recognition like everyone else, but they’re stingy when it comes to recognizing their subordinates
  15. all I learned from previous bosses is what not to do as a boss
  16. if someone above you doesn’t like you, you can never do right, or enough. ever
  17. jobs are expendable
  18. never work off the clock, you are giving away chunks of your life for money. your life and time is valuable and irreplaceable. any sacrifice for a company  or boss is meaningless because the company and your boss is not loyal to you. they’re loyal to their paycheck and dividends. yet they will, irrationally, expect your loyalty
  19. if you learned valuable things at work through hard experience, be careful with sharing it, especially with your bosses- they will ignore or belittle it but in a month or so they will suddenly have it as a brainstorm. Or, in a different place and different company- they will trade your ideas as currency and take credit
  20. talk is cheap
  21. if you were promised something at work, rest assured it was promised to several other people
  22. jobs are easy- you just have to figure out what it is they want- and give it to them
  23. do your job well, but don’t reveal how you get it done. hold something in reserve always. knowledge is power. they’re paying for your time.  your  experiences and your mind are not for sale
  24. know your larger priorities, your values. set your boundaries- don’t let a mere job cross the line
  25. subordinates imitate their bosses. don’t be like your boss
  26. you are what you think. what do you spend the most time thinking about? thinking leads to action and emotions ( which influence actions)
  27. never idealize your boss. a boss is just a person with a title and bigger salary. they are not god. so is their boss and their boss’s boss
  28. people will only change when something drastic happens, or when they or their position is threatened. otherwise it’s business as usual- they may talk the talk- but that is it. fundamental changes are rare.
  29. people think that because it worked somewhere else, it will work everywhere. no it won’t. everything is always changing- every environment is different
  30. problems are unique- and so are solutions. but there are larger lessons to be learned from each. be a master of extrapolating those. connect the dots
  31. always be a freelancer. your skills go with you. they can replace you but it will take three people to do the same job- and not with the same care. the magic goes when you go. always be a free-lancer.
  32. don’t believe the hype. when your company  says customer service is the goal- it’s not. bottom line the goal is profitability… YOU will take this idea- and you’re welcome




“welcome to earth”

January 3, 2016

‘Do you like me?’
” sometimes ”
‘ Do you love me?’
“all the time”



so I said: ” I’ve never been with anyone who could make the world disappear like you did”


( 70 degrees in NYC,  Christmas day )

Good thing we have logic and science to explain drastic changes in the environment…otherwise we’d be sacrificing a lot of people…


you know that cave artist who saw that lump on the cave wall and imagined a bison, or maybe wanted to draw a bison and needed a lump to suggest the bison, found it on the cave wall and shaded it in? he/she was fucking brilliant. see- it wasn’t about chest-thumping or bashing someone’s head in or grabbing someone else’s resources ; it was a flicker of the best- THE BEST-  in being human

human being —> being human. think on this.

it is not a given state, it is  the better side of us we must always strive for.






















November 13, 2015

really. vision isn’t steady, like a camera on a tripod…
while you’re looking your eyeballs are pulsing, blood is coursing through your body, your head bobs, your heart pumps, your lungs expand and fill up, gravity is asserting itself- subtly collapsing your entire frame down.
vision isn’t steady.
vision is a nervous wreck.
vision is a fight or flight response.

vision is suppositions, filling-in-the-blanks

oceanic gaps and




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“that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other”

November 8, 2015


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“life is in the right, always”

October 25, 2015

these days, I don’t have a lot of words, only wonder


Icarus did not fly in vain


one of  the best legacies  you can leave your offspring is the notion that happiness is found by finding your true calling then pursuing it with every breath

courage or cowardice?



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“for here there is no place that does not see you. You must change your life”

October 4, 2015

In a time of visual hit-and-runs, make the image a climax, a revelation. Let em work for it


Navels. I’m facinated by navels. everyone has one. a reminder that if someone had not been selfless at some point, we would not have made it here. to become monsters or angels, or whatever’s in between.


Here’s a fact: you will never stare at another human being as much as you will stare at your own baby- not your greatest lover, not your spouse, not your best friend.

Experience is two-edged; it can either open you up or cocoon you into a seeming reality. Mostly it’s the latter. So beware.


Somewhere there’s a quote by Rilke: “I want to be with those who know secret things or else alone…”

that would characterize me  in my personal life, and socially. at work,  it keeps me frustrated. time and again, ( perhaps grossly misplaced) I look for bosses who are sages, who are true teachers and leaders. instead I find men who are simply trying to hold on to their jobs: defensive and afraid, narrow-minded, petty or manipulative. Instead of nurturing, bold, visionary, creative or inspiring.  this is ” reality “. everyone’s gotta keep paying the bills, right? it is, after all “work”, not an ashram. there are no giants out there.

just ants building anthills



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August 15, 2015

An earthworm experiences its world internally through its mouth, and through its entire skin, externally. To it, the world is solid. Exposed to air, to “nothing”, it is completely perplexed


the danger of complacency- the security of repeating yourself


bone-dog living on the fringes of towns

familiar just enough with the streets and alleys

startles at the squirm of curtains


loving someone is like driving- you’re only ever sure of how you’re driving on your side of the road, not how the other person(s) will drive on theirs.  you love anyway- until you don’t



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